Self sabotage can be hard to recognize. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies.
It’s sad, but true…
Even when we think we’re doing all the right things, our subconscious can sneak out and undo some of our best plans.
As a result, if we don’t first get control of our deeply-rooted urges and addictions to past behaviors, creating our dreams can be a lot like trying to control a bull in a china shop. Not an easy task, right?
So if you feel like you’ve been a victim of self sabotage, and can’t quite figure out exactly why or how it’s happening, try these 3 simple steps for building a pen for the bull that might be living in your subconscious mind.
Step 1 – Identify the bull in the herd
Our subconscious is a wonderful place full of ideas, instincts and intuition. These inherent traits make up who we are and how we act. For the most part, they are prized attributes.
But, if your subconscious is sabotaging you, it needs to be wrangled in.
– Spend some time in meditation focusing on what you DO want.
– Then, move to the things you already do that can help you achieve those goals.
– And lastly, try to identify the habits that are keeping you from success…
If you’re having a hard time identifying your bull or perhaps figuring out which is your dominant bull in the herd (I suggest dealing with one ‘bull’ – or your biggest obstacle – at a time)…
Then, once you’ve identified the bull that’s keeping you from reaching success, try to…
Step 2 – Separate the self sabotage bull from the herd
You should never look a bull in the eyes, nor should we stare down our own inner struggles. Giving focused attention to your obstacle can increase the tension and allow your bull to go wild.
Instead, try to find the root cause.
Some people spend time toiling on the internet or watching TV, but focusing on watching TV won’t change the way you feel or act. Rather, identify the main reason you’re experiencing the problem. Why is it that you feel frustrated, unhappy or anxious? What is the real, ‘deep down’ reason that’s causing you dissatisfaction?
Once you have identified the obstacle (and separated the bull from the herd) next…
Step 3 – Use the bull to grow the herd
After identifying the obstacle, you have a chance to embrace it and use it to your advantage.
You simply need to find a way to meet the needs of your bull-ish urges, while not detracting from your main goals.
Many of us have a need for nearly constant stimulation. I like to listen to music (rather than watching TV for example) while doing other things to provide that stimulus without completely distracting me from the task at hand.
Whatever you see as being your biggest obstacle, you can always get to a point where it can be neutralized, or even better, used to your advantage.
The best way to get started is to practice visualizing yourself in the life you want, with clear intention and emotion.
And to help you do that, first figure out what your [#1 Success Blocker] is, so you can more easily attract all of the things that matter to you the most.
Post By Natalie Ledwell
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